The other night I was sitting on my son’s bed reading him a bedtime story. My two girls were in the other room getting ready for bed themselves. Through the plaster walls I could hear the giggling...then bickering.
I thought, Oh no, here we go again.
A minute later, Ava comes into the room we’re in and says, “Mommy, Elie says if you don't have your ears pierced you are a little baby. "
It had been a long day; I was sitting, under covers, with a book on my lap snuggling with my boy. I didn’t feel like uprooting myself to diffuse another squabble. Instead of getting up to talk to the offending little sister, I said to my oldest,
"You know that’s not true, right?" Her answer was "Yes".
My lazy but insightful response... "If you know it's not true, why do you let it bother you?"
She shrugged her shoulders and left the room. I think she got it.
I felt the Holy Spirit say "Why do YOU believe the those things that aren’t true?" Hmm...
He had a point. Lately I have been listening to just about whatever thought pops into my head and accept it as reality. I hate to admit it, but I have entertained negative thoughts about my self-worth and ones that breed discontent far too easily.
>>"My husband didn't call me today OR yesterday from work, he must not be thinking about me."
>>"Those moms didn't invite ME to lunch… did I do something wrong? They must not like me."
Positive thinking might help but I have something more powerful at my disposal. I have the Word of God and prayer.
>>Instead of being hurt or angry with my husband I can pray that God would help him manage his workload. I can also ask for creative ideas to bless him when he gets home from the office. I can remind myself of Colossians 3:12 that says I am God's beloved. "God has chosen you as His own special people...." (CEV)
>>Rather than worrying about not being included in everything others are doing I can pray that God would show me the gift I have in my current circle of friends. I can ask Him how to grow and nurture those relationships. It’s okay for me to pray for new friends as well. I can rest in knowing that Jesus calls me friend (John 15:15) and He sticks closer than a brother (Proverbs 18:24).
This is what the Bible means in 2 Corinthians 10:5 when it says
We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
It takes effort.
Ava walked back into her room and let her sister know she was, in fact, not a baby just because her ears weren’t pieced…as if she had any doubt. I loved how she was bold enough to not let the lie linger and confront it with truth.
Now it’s my turn to do the same.