Better with a Friend


My kids gave me a list of things they’d like to do while school is out.

The list includes going to the zoo, the park, museums, and the beach. They would like to make crafts and have play dates and sleepovers with their friends. All of these ideas sound like fun, however, I honestly don’t look forward to doing some of these. I know that sounds awful so let me explain.

I love spending time with my little ones. The kinds of adventures I mentioned above are Hallmark moments waiting to happen. They will likely be full of laughter, joy, and teachable moments. There is potential to create wonderful memories that will last a lifetime. So what’s the problem?

I dread the thought of doing some of these alone, just the three kids and I.

Most things are more enjoyable when done with a friend. I like having company and the kids do too.

When I hear my friend’s voice on the other end of the phone say they would love to join us for a day at the ___________________________ (fill in the blank) and I am thrilled.

Take for example, the beach.

  • With a friend I have some one to talk to while the kids make sandcastles.
  • I don’t have to go in the water if I don’t want because their friends will go in with them.
  • I can relax a little knowing that there are 2 pairs of eyes watching over the little guys.
  • The best part… I don’t to schlep all my kids to the bathroom just because one has to go. My friend can stay back while I enjoy the walk with just one.

Sometimes, I find it easier to enjoy my kid’s company when I am with a friend.

As I anticipated our summer plans I thought through my mental Rolodex wondering who I could invite on our excursions. That’s when I felt God showing me something...

Launching a business, writing a book proposal, or implementing a new exercise regiment are all things I dread because I don’t want to do them alone. Just thinking about these things causes me to balk. I have been know to throw  pity parties insisting that If only I had co-leader, companion, or cheerleader, that thing I want to do - it would easier.

It appears as if I have forgotten that:

  • God is with me always.
  • He is a companion in the all the things I am do.
  • He is a friend that sticks closer than a brother.
  • He is never too busy to talk.
  • He is at the ready to provide guidance, wisdom and encouragement if I ask.
  • He is my biggest fan.

It challenges me to think, “What would I do, try, or risk if I truly understood that God was with me every step of the way?” “Would I finally step out of my comfort zone and do those things that have been stirring my soul?”

When I choose to acknowledge God’s presence in my day to day I become confident that I don’ t have to do anything on my own. I must choose to believe that He will never leave me or forsake me (Deuteronomy 31:6), bringing me one step closer to fulfilling all God has called me to.

Whether I go to the beach or pursue a business idea, the choice is mine. Do I struggle alone or invite a friend?

What would you do if you were confident that God was with you every step of the way?